Sensory-friendly language

Words that help and words that harm during sensory distress.

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Last updated June 2026

Helpful things to say

"I can see this feels too much." "You are safe." "Let's move somewhere quieter." "You don't have to explain right now." "Would headphones help?" "Do you need space or help?" "Let's take one small step." "I believe you." "We can try again later." "Your body is telling us something."

Unhelpful things to say

"Stop being dramatic."
"It's not that loud."
"You're too old for this."
"Everyone else is fine."
"You're embarrassing me."
"Just ignore it."
"You need to get used to it."
"You're doing this on purpose."
"Stop flapping."
"Calm down now."

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