Overview
Autistic girls and women are historically under-recognised because diagnostic criteria were developed on boys. Girls often mask, mirror peers and present with internalised anxiety rather than the externalised behaviour services look for.
Key points to understand
- Common presentations: intense friendships, fictional special interests (horses, books, fandoms), perfectionism, exhaustion at home after holding it together at school.
- Often misdiagnosed first as anxiety, depression, eating disorders, OCD or 'emotionally based school avoidance'.
- Late diagnosis is common — many women are identified in their 30s, 40s or after their own children are diagnosed.
- Co-occurring conditions: anxiety, depression, EDS/hypermobility, PMDD, eating disorders, ADHD.
Practical strategies that help
- Ask about the inner experience, not just observable behaviour.
- Request assessors with experience of female-presenting autism.
- Connect with autistic women's communities (Autistic Girls Network, Asparagus Magazine, NAS women's groups).
Common challenges to be aware of
- Schools may insist 'she's fine at school' even when home meltdowns are severe — this is classic masking.
- Puberty often increases sensory and emotional load.
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