Overview
Years of being misunderstood, masked, bullied or 'fixed' can damage self-esteem. Rebuilding it is part of post-diagnostic recovery.
Key points to understand
- Many autistic adults describe a 'lifetime of feeling broken'.
- Late diagnosis often brings grief — and then relief.
- Autistic-affirming community challenges internalised ableism.
- Therapy with a neurodiversity-affirming practitioner accelerates recovery.
Practical strategies that help
- Read or listen to autistic voices (Devon Price, Sarah Hendrickx, Pete Wharmby, Joanne Limburg).
- Name strengths daily.
- Drop masking gradually in safe spaces.
- Build identity around interests and values, not 'fitting in'.
Common challenges to be aware of
- Internalised ableism takes years to unlearn — be patient.
- Family or partners may resist the new identity — patience and clear info help.
How Bright Steps can help
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References & further reading
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